Yes ladies and gents, it is harder and harder to find a suitable gentleman. So, these are some tidbits for those men out there that want to be a gentleman, and they come from an etiquette book from the 50’s!
This book indicates that no matter how polished a man is, without the fundamental code of honor, he will never be a gentleman. “The honor of a gentleman demands the inviolability of his word, and the incorruptibility of his principles. He is the descendant of the knight, the crusader; he is the defender of the defenseless and the champion of justice – or he is not a gentleman.
Decencies of Behavior:
• A gentleman does not, ever borrow money from a friend except in unexpected circumstances, and money so borrowed must be returned promptly.
• One who is rich does not make a display of his money or his possessions. Only a vulgarian talks ceaselessly about how much this or that cost him.
• A well-red man intensely dislikes the mention of money and never speaks of it (outside of business hours) if he can avoid it.
• A gentleman never discusses his family affairs either in public or with acquaintances, nor does he speak more than casually about his wife.
• Nor does a gentleman ever criticize the behavior of a wife whose conduct is scandalous. He must never treat her with disrespect before their children, or a servant, or anyone. No matter who he may be, whether rich or poor, in high life or low, the man who publicly besmirches his wife’s name besmirches still more his own, and proves that he is not, was not, and never will be, a gentleman.
• A gentlemen does not lose control of his temper
• A gentleman does not show a letter written by a lady
• A gentleman avoids the mention of names exactly as he avoids the mention of what things cost
• Manners are an integral part
• A man of breeding does not slap strangers on the back nor so much as lay his finger-tips on a lady
• All thoroughbred people are considerate of the feelings of others, not matter what the station of the others may be.